All about the emotions……..

feeling

 

For months we have been trying to find a way to help with Teddie’s anxieties. While we have been looking for ways to help we have overlooked the emotions that come with these issues. Unlocking his emotions may well be the key to supporting him with his current anxieties.

There are a trillion different techniques for learning and discovering feelings online & in books but implementing them is no way as easy as its mentioned.

Emotions are traditionally fractionated into six ‘basic’ emotions;

  • Happy
  • Sad
  • Angry
  • Afraid
  • Disgusted
  • Surprised

Helping Teddie express his emotions when needing to use unfamiliar toilets we may have a better understanding of how he’s feeling.

We do not understand why using certain toilets affect him the way they do, he has the fear on his face whenever I even whisper the word toilet. We want Teddie to be in control of his feelings & have the ability to tell us when he’s scared, sad or happy!

We are aiming to focus on the main 4 emotions first, Happy, sad, angry & afraid I have also added “poorly”. Teddie knows when someone else is unwell but are very reluctant to brand himself whenever he is poorly.

Visual has always been everything for Teddie, we have made PECS cards for all six emotions, the school are focusing purely on the main 4 while we will cover the 6 at home. I have made cartoon PEC’s cards & family PEC’s cards showing the different emotions.

If we make learning the emotion fun enough Teddie will know them by the end of the week, Teddie learns things at a ridiculous rate.

I will start with a word bingo game followed by saying an emotion and get Teddie to pick the corresponding card. These learning techniques have proven well in the past. Teddie loves to play word & number bingo, I’m confident he’ll love this game just as much. 

Once Teddie understands his emotions we will create the Emotions Wall, Teddie can use it when he is experiencing an emotion that he is struggling to express.

Last week we met with Teddie’s teacher, senco, specialist teacher and his EP (educational psychologist) to complete another one plan.

The specialist teacher will be in discussion with the class teacher and see him every term, the EP will use puppets to help communicate Teddie worries and fears. With these professionals helping we may have enough to apply for an EHCP next term, fingers crossed.

We love our Bear and wouldn’t have him any other way

The A word………

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A question I am always asked is whether Teddie is aware he’s any different from his peers, my answer has always been the same,

“No”

Teddies confidence has always been refreshing, without it I think he would be a completely different boy.

Teddie is unfamiliar with unkind words and name calling, I doubt he has any concept of them if a child said something to him as he’s never been around that environment. Unless there was physical contact, ie pushing Teddie would continue to play around them. There will, of course, be a time when Teddie is exposed to this bully like behaviour, I only hope this never hinders his confidence.

Teddie will happily approach new children and always tries to join in on their game, especially if its chase.
The difference between Teddie and the other children is Teddie has no concept whether the children want him to play with them, most of the time Teddie isn’t playing with the new children, he’s actually playing alongside them. If the children ran off without him he would happily run with them thinking he is joining in.

This week Gareth and I caught up on the TV series The A word. The story follows members of the Hughes family, who seem to lead a normal existence until they receive some unexpected news. Communication problems with 5-year-old son Joe Hughes lead to a diagnosis of autism.

While watching The A word I noticed a lot of similarities to our journey, we went through the motions of saying

“he’ll get there”

Although there are many similarities we have never hidden behind Teddie having special needs, in that respect, we are complete opposites.

last weeks programme, Alison Joe’s mum forgot to charge his iPod which he listens to all the time, Joe’s iPod runs out of battery in the car on the way to his new specialist school. This completely changes the dynamics of Joe’s morning resulting in a difficult transition into his new school for Joe and his mum. I sympathized with her as the slightest change to routine can make or break Teddie,

I love the series but what annoyed me was how quick Joe got a placement into a specialist school, most families I know have had to go through legal proceedings to get a placement.
I know it’s only a programme but I would have liked the series to have shown the struggles us families have to go through in order to get what our children are entitled too.

I have made more PECs cards this weekend, Teddie is still showing signs of being unsettled, even at home. I have placed social stories on our routines and the school transition around the house so he knows whats happening. I have also printed a plan & completed board for Teddies 1:1 to try, if the day can be planned ahead Teddie will feel less anxious if he can see whats going to happen (hopefully)

Life with a Bear has its up’s and down’s but as always we wouldn’t have him any other way!

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