I cannot remember the last time I wrote a blog, wasn’t even sure I could still login.
The role of a parent is a hard role to bare at times even without additional needs thrown into the mix. For us to live a semi ”normal” life it revolves around routine and preparation. The second I get it wrong the glue that holds everything together unfolds and the shit really hits the fan. The need to please is as ever overwhelming, I don’t think I have it in me to say no! Last week I didn’t achieved much other than taxiing children to and from schools, cutting the grass and doing the odd bit of housework. Autopilot is most certainly on but for now, it’s what has to happen.
Teddie is as ever his happy self, I cannot recall the last time Teddie became overwhelmed (a meltdown, I don’t like to use the word meltdown) He, of course, gets extremely close to it but for now, we can stop it from escalating. We never use the fact Teddie has autism as an excuse for bad behaviour, we are EXTREMELY LUCKY that Teddie is very rarely naughty. He is aware of what’s right and wrong but his approach can come across as rude at times. We always pull him up on this and tell him the correct way to speak to someone, he always takes on board what we tell him Teddie has an amazing ability to self-regulate, over the years he has created his own movement breaks when he’s at home. For example, we’ll be eating dinner when he’ll ask to go outside, he’ll run to the back of the garden then come back to the dinner table. If he’s in the lounge on the laptop he’ll skip into the kitchen then go back to what he was doing. This has helped us over the years with his movement breaks for schools. When you ask him what’s the best part of the school he’ll say his movement breaks
Having two other (semi) neurotypical children it can be hard to find a balance, Harvey and Alfie will tell you Teddie rules the roost. This isn’t the case, we do not give in to Teddie at all, what we do do is a compromise. I think most people do this with younger children, I don’t necessarily think we do it because he has autism, we do it because the youngest. I often say I’ll have 3 of Teddie and I mean it, during the lockdown he was the one we didn’t have to worry about, he never moaned at all, not like the older 2 Life continues to test us, we learn from our mistakes and move forward knowing ourselves slightly better.
We love our Bear and wouldn’t have him any other way
It’s been forever since I have posted anything so with that in mind I thought I’d share some of my daily logs. I’ve been doing this for a while now it’s normally for a post but never get around to posting it or just to get something off my chest, however, these are my thoughts and feelings at the time. With it being mental health day last week, I thought this is a good time to share some of my logs, there’s no date to them as I generally write on one page of my notes on my phone, either the top end or the bottom. I haven’t edited them so some may not make sense to you but certainly do to me!
I very often feel lost, surrounded by people but feel alone if that makes sense. I constantly have the burden of everyone on my shoulder especially Teddie’s well-being and Alfie’s mental health, something that at times scares me what direction it may lead him in the future. This burden is physically, mentally and emotionally exhausting, some days I feel like I have been to the gym as my body hurts so much I can barely function, however, I have to. I can never switch off, I am constantly thinking ahead, hours, days and weeks ahead just so everything is in place for every eventuality. I’ve recently described my brain as a filing cabinet with a million sections in and that’s just for Teddie.
As said by Ronan Keating; ‘life is a roller coaster Just gotta ride it!
Nothing like walking back from the school run crying made worse that I didn’t have sunglasses wear to hide the fact. Teddie has had a particularly hard morning and it’s only 8.50! A mix up with 1:1, but what made me upset was Teddie’s reaction to the school head. He was very overwhelmed so he shut himself in the class toilet, which is fine as it’s his way of coping with things. when the head came in to see if he was ok Teddies persona completely changed and it looked like he was scared of her. Teddie then took himself to his desk while protesting he didn’t want anyone with him. I’m not sure if what happened was a good thing or a bad thing, I’d never seen him like this before. I think he knew she was of an authority figure and knew what she said goes but his reaction threw me.
I’ve called the school he’s ok!
What makes a person bad (rhetorical, I know the science behind it) what annoys me more than anything is a person who never congratulations another person, by that I don’t mean getting married or having a baby, I mean on a day to day stuff. I always say well done, text or call to follow up on how someone’s day has gone or if the person child has had a good day, however, we never seem to get it back. It’s something that weighs heavy on my heart and upset me! Gareth always tells me to do the same but I just can’t be that person, I like to wish people the best, text them to see how they are and generally interested in them. Rant over!
Had a meeting with the school Senco today for Alfie, he’s really struggling at school, finding his way around and all the changes that come with secondary school. Alfie is so frightened of getting into trouble, altho that would never happen. He’s worried about being asked a question in class and he won’t know the answer especially now he’s been moved into the top sets. He isn’t eaten or going to the toilet the whole time he’s at school which is another concern. During the meeting, Alfie came in but ended up getting extremely upset. I didn’t want him in the meeting if I’m honest as I don’t like talking about him in front of him. Alfie’s now been given a pass for pretty much everything, he can leave early for lunch to avoid the queues, leave the class whenever he needs to go to the toilet (without asking) and a teacher will not put him on the spot with questions. When all this was being put into place I thought it was completely unless as he’d never leave the class for a toilet or early for lunch but fantastic its there if he wants too.
Seriously, kill me now! I cannot cope with hearing about everyone’s uni experience anymore, although on the other hand, I am impressed with the level of 18-20 year old who have travelled from abroad- at the same time I’ve over hearing about it. In a recent seminar, one of the girls was asked her fears for this year, her response was:
‘Timekeeping and procrastination”
I honestly wanted to scream; What the FUCK!!! Who says procrastination! She’s a sweet girl though
Sonnie has real issues!! To add to my forever growing list of things to do and remember Sonnie has decided he cannot eat from his bowel. He now wants to be hand feed, WTF!!!!! Of course, I do it, he’s certainly his mother’s boy that’s for sure, I swear he’s like the 4th child! He’s completely obsessive, always on edge and needs to be hand feed- I think the dogs on the spectrum!
I’m not sure where I begin with my manic day, all I can say is it feels hell at times. I’m up at 6.20 altho Teddie is up at 6 am, he’s said his good mornings then we send him back into his room for 20 minutes but i should have just got up all I can hear is him moaning.
I do lunches for everyone, I could do them the night before, however, everyone prefers them made fresh on the day! Toast for Teddie and a round of hazelnut pancakes. 8 am walk the dog for a half-hour, come home to take Teddie to a school than race back to get Harvey up, make him breakfast (sausage bap) then head to uni for 5 hours of lectures & seminars.
Get home to start dinner, force the boys to do their homework then to be called and asked if I’d do a segment for BBC London, as I’m listening I’m telling myself to say no, but of course I don’t! End up doing Alfie’s homework as he doesn’t know what to do but have a feeling he does but knows I’ll do it, then I cruel into bed at a ridiculous time, I seriously need to start saying No!
Harvey pretty much put every item of clothing I’ve recently washed and folded in the wash, by that I mean on the bathroom floor, all needs washing apparently!! I may kill him.
Today is mental health day and I feel terrible I haven’t posted anything on it! My back is playing me up again (dehydration of the discs, apparently) I feel awful we have had to let our friend down and not attend her wedding down south- right down south in Devon, however, I can’t cope in the car for half-hour let alone 5 hours with my back.
Although my back is sore my arms and legs have taken the strain at times I’m in agony and need to keep moving. I’m irritable, moody and have a million things I want to do but can’t. I want my mirror put up in the hallway but need to repaint it. I want the massive box with the hot tub parts moved from the hallway as It’s been sitting there for over a week and no one has moved to into the garage I’m tempted to don’t myself even though I know it will only make my back worse but needs must!
The only silver lining is my parent are having Teddie and Alfie till Sunday although Harvey has now asked for his mates to all come over so not quite the lone time Gareth and I were hoping for!
Today is a struggle, it’s only 11 am, one bonus is the hot tub box is now in the garage. The hot water bottle is still attached to my back, it does help but you would think it may give the boys an indication that I’m still hurting! A round of pancakes made for Lord Harvey, then Alfie and Teddie got Amongst it!
It’s dawned on me more than once but being a parent to children makes no difference when you are hurting or ill but throw in a child with autism you have no hope in hell resting or taking time for yourself.
Taking on other peoples anxieties, worries and fears are completely consuming and draining. I’m in a constant whirlwind of worry myself because I’m constantly worried about the boys. Gareth would say I give in, however, I chose my battles and know-how to win a battle without Teddie even realising I’ve won.
For us, it comes down to patients, something I have a lot of when it’s comes to Teddie. I constantly think ahead and know how things r gonna play out but Gareth hasn’t quite mastered this yet. For me, from the hours of 7 am to 7.30 pm I am constantly playing out scenarios of what might happen in my head which is mentally exhausting let me tell you. I also know between these hours I need to be ready at the waiting for Teddie to need me for something whether it be to read a book, play a game or to just sit with him. Weekends we tell Teddie he has to stay in his room and play till 8 am, Friday night I forgot to remind him which means it’s business as normal and we r up at 7 am.
My point with my daily logs are to get things off my chest, I very rarely talk about my worries, however, its important to express how you feel with either talking to people or writing down your worries and fears. There are many agencies you can get in contact with if you are unable to speak to friends or family members.
Mental health helplines:
Charity providing support if you have been diagnosed with an anxiety condition.
Phone: 03444 775 774 (Monday to Friday, 9.30am to 5.30pm)
As a rule, I am a very confident person, I’m not afraid to stand up in front of a crowd or speak my mind on something I have knowledge in but confidence is so much more than that.
For the next 9 weeks I’m attending a building confidence course, at first, I thought this was going to be building up children’s confidence but its actually from a parents perspective, which is great as it’s brought feelings I didn’t even know I felt. Today we were asked to set some individual goals in regards to our own personal confidence, mine are the following:
Accept help from others- I am a very knowledgeable person with most areas of the spectrum & the psychological effect this has on people. I am very rigid with our routines as I’ve set them & enforced them so I am very reluctant to hand the reins over to someone else as it generally undoes everything I have put into place. I stop doing things as I worry what these effects will have on the children, mainly Teddie.
Support my son (Alfie) with his confidence & low self-worth: Alfie is the least confident boy I know, he puts himself down pretty much every day. Although we support him at home and he has help at school with his anxieties I feel he could progress so much more if he had the tools to self-regulate his owns feelings & have the confidence to speak his mind.
Inner confidence: Although my outer exterior tells you I am a confident person my inner exterior is telling me different. I am very obsessive when it comes to my children but not so much about myself, I pretty much put myself down at least a few times a week. I worry what people think.
Avoid toxic people: There are certain people I need to avoid as they make me feel a certain way about myself. I’d say I am a very good listener, I’ll sit and allow friends/family to tell me their problems, worries or concerns but when it comes to my turn to share my feelings I’m shut down & not listened too.
I’ve always been an advocate for “It’s okay not to be okay” as parents we all feel like we are doing a rubbish job at one point in our lives- your lying if you think this isn’t the case but it comes down to having the confidence to admit this to ourselves and be able to make the changes that are needed for you to feel good about yourself.
I think building confidence isn’t necessarily aimed at parents with children on the spectrum, in fact, you do not even need to be a parent to want to improve your confidence. First impression count & by making small changes this can make you feel so much better in social environments.
The information I gain over these next 9 weeks I would love to share with you all, sometimes the smallest of change can be the breakthrough you needed to become the more confident you.
We are 3 weeks into year 1, I’m still not sure how that’s even possible, feels like only yesterday Teddie was starting reception.
I had my doubts about year one, my gut told me we may possibly see some struggles but so far Teddie has yet again proven me wrong.
Teddie has settled in the class better then any of us could have expected, he now has his own desk and work area. This has made such a difference, Teddie needed that place within the classroom, somewhere he can call his own. Teddie is spending more and more time within the class something he didn’t do a lot of in reception.
Teddie loves to dip in and out of things, if the other children are doing an activity on the carpet Teddie will join in but if it all gets too much for him he will take himself to his table to do independent work with is 1:1.
One of Teddie’s many talents is he has an amazing ability to listen to what’s going on elsewhere in the classroom, even when he’s not be participating in it. To others, it may not look like he’s even listening but he would be able to repeat everything that has been said even though he’s not fully engaged and working on his own activity- this boy amazes me.
Last year Teddie found the beginning part of the day difficult so he always entered the school through the office and went straight into the sensory room completely avoiding the classroom, this was something I wanted to change this year. I hoped Teddie could go straight into his new classroom but still have access to the sensory room later on in the morning. So far Teddies has been able to avoid entering the school via the office & sensory room and has been eager to go straight into his classroom like all the other children do.
It took a good 2 weeks for Teddie to stop asking to go back into the reception classroom, he always said:
“this classroom finished (pointing with his middle finger) go back to Teddie’s class in reception”
At first, he didn’t fully understand why he couldn’t go back but after we told him he’s a big boy now and the smaller children needed the reception class Teddie completely understood and liked the idea that he’s a bigger boy now.
There’s still one major concern we just cannot overcome- the toilets!
Towards the end of the 2nd week, I spoke with Teddies 1:1 and assumed Teddie was using the toilets in his classroom only to find out he wasn’t. Teddie would go to the toilet in the morning once he woke up 6.30, 6.45am then again once he came home at 3.15pm, this is an incredibly long time not to go to the toilet! We decided the only option was for him to use the only toilet we know he’ll use and that’s in reception. There are 5 toilets to choose from in reception, Teddie will only use the 2nd toilet on the left.
Once we told Teddie he could use the reception toilets the following day he went twice!! Teddie was made clear that he is welcome to use this toilet but we go to the toilet say “hello” then go back to year 1, he was absolutely fine with this.
We are having a few teething issues with pick up, half the class go to the afterschool club Teddie is becoming very upset as his name isn’t being called out for it. He has no idea what afterschool club is, he’s just sad he isn’t being picked for it.
Everyday Teddie overcomes an obstacle without any issues or fuss at all, we are so proud of him we could burst!
We love our Bear and wouldn’t have him any other way.
I’ve been counting down the day till I can tell Teddie he has school tomorrow, he’s asked nearly every day if it’s a school day. 6 weeks off school is a looooonnnnnggggg time to be off when you have no real concept of why you aren’t at school.
There are a few things I’m really not going to miss when the boys (Teddie) are back at school. Like when you’re taking 5 minutes to yourself in the garden and u hear what every parent dreads……….the sound of the lego box being tipped over!!
Picking lego up should be used as state punishment or classed as a job as its a bloody pain in the arse & takes forever to pick up. There’s always one piece you’ll miss but you need not worry as you’ll find it when u stand on the bastard thing when u sneak into the bedroom check on the child!
Out of the 3 boys, Teddie is actually the only one we didn’t have to keep amused throughout the holiday. He makes his own games up, normally coping whatever he’s watching on YouTube. He loves nothing more than flitting between rooms like a Tasmania devil leaving wreckage as he goes. I often just sit and watch wondering what is going through his amazing little brain, he’s always so happy in whatever he’s doing.
Every day Teddie has turned the lounge into a soft play area with the cushions off the sofa. All 3 boys think they’re on an all-inclusive holiday & Harvey’s using the house like a hotel, the end is near!
Teddie is super excited about returning back to school. I think he will go straight in without any issues but think the 2nd week in we will see a slight change in him. The realization of school and the routines he has no control over.
Teddie has the same amazing 1:1’s, without them again this year I would be a nervous wreck, I think Teddie would be as well.
This time last year Teddie was about to start school, he could hardly say more than a handful of words fast forward a year & we cannot keep him quiet. He’s made so much progress it’s unreal but I still have the same worries and fears.
The children in his class & school are all so lovely but there is always the worry as the other children get older their understanding of being “different” grows. Teddie has never seen himself as any different from the other kids his age, I’d hate another child to change that.
Alfie said a while ago a new (year3) boy came through to the dining hall with his trousers round his ankles after finishing the toilet. Alfie said Everyone was laughing at him. I really hoped Alfie didn’t laugh as well, he said he didn’t but in the heat of the moment he probably copied everyone else and laughed. The first thing that crossed my mind when Alfie told me this was this will more than likely be Teddie in a few years.
This boy did what came naturally to him, he sought out help when he needed it, I’m sure it was more the situation and the surroundings that made the children laugh over his inabilities to pull his trousers up but it still must have been upsetting. If this was Teddie we would probably laugh with everyone else not fully understanding what they were laughing at.
Laughing and teasing is uncalled for, it can have a real effect on all involved but especially the ones being laughed at.
We all go through things as a child we’d like to forget. I remember one girl always reminding me I had bumps in my hair when it was up in a ponytail. She always had this perfect ponytail, something that I hadn’t ever noticed till she sought out to remind me how imperfect my hair was. It became a constant daily reminder of how awful my hair looked, after a while, I stopped wearing my hair in a ponytail as I began getting really annoyed with my mum for leaving bumps in my hair.
Although this never really had an adverse effect on my life, at the time it made me change how I thought others saw me and how I saw myself, I can only imagine how awful the poor boy felt when most of the dinner hall laughed at him.
If there’s one thing you can teach your children please encourage them to just be kind, let them know that the things they say and do can really hurt others even if they think they are only playing. Explain that all children come in all shapes and sizes & we are all different in our own way.
How much better would the world be if everyone was just that bit kinder to each other?”
– Holly Willoughby
As Teddie starts yet another chapter in his life, we continue to support him as he finds his way through this world.
We love our Bear and wouldn’t have him any other way.
As I put Teddie to bed he made that pretend to cry noise as he wanted me to lay with him, something daddy does every other night but mummy doesn’t fall for the same tricks. I close the bedroom door and return to the garden where my parent’s, Gareth & Alfie is still sitting, we could all hear Teddie calling out for me still pretending to cry so we ignore him.
Out the corner of our eye, we see a big brown bear appear at the upstairs window, Teddie.
“Mommy (he’s American lately) It’s Teddie, I’m crying”
We all look at each other and bust out laughing, to which Teddie thought was highly amusing so then started to sing Tommy Thumb.
“Mommy finger, Daddy finger, brother finger from his window”.
He was about to go onto grandad finger but as I got up Teddie legged it back into bed like we hadn’t just seen him, the little shitbag
What made this situation so funny was this time last year Teddie could barely speak 2 words. I generally had worry and fear behind my eyes not knowing how he’d cope with what the world had to offer.
Fast forward a year we can now have a conversation with Teddie, although at times it’s limited its still a conversation he’s engaging in.
It’s the littlest comments that make us laugh out loud like;
“Cheers” whenever he has a drink with someone.
“That’s not right” when he sees something out of place.
“Fingers crossed mommy” when we are playing Mario on Ds
“Yes, I can” when we say no thank you.
“10 more minutes” for everything we tell him to stop doing.
“Good job” to almost everything you do.
This past year has taught me that even if you have an inability to do something it doesn’t have to change who you are. Teddie has always been confident, funny, loud & proud even when he didn’t say a word now put words into the mix he’s polite, kind, caring, loving and all the above.
Teddie receives limited speech therapy, once every few months at school his successes have come from a mixture of putting in lots of work at home & at school but it’s mainly come from Teddie wanting to learn.
Teddie has a photographic memory so 95% of his learning has to be learnt from visuals. Carpet time & speaking/learning in groups are areas Teddie struggles most with as he cannot process the information like he can if he was learning from visuals
Unfortunately, as Teddie goes through the years at school the learning is taught with a teacher at the front of the class and the children listening and taking notes, something Teddie may not be able to do.
Teddie has a revised curriculum ready for September, we are hoping he can spend more time in the classroom learning his way but also seeing how the other children learn. Teddie often likes to dip in & out of class learning if something takes his eye or if he knows whats being taught.
Teddie’s EHCP is now finalized ready for when he starts year one, although not much will change now the school will now receive a lot more money to help cover Teddie’s revised learning.
I read recently that schools are having their budgets cuts, a decision the government feel is a good move. The Guardian reported that 80% of schools are having to cut numbers of teaching assistants and support staff due to the new national funding formula for schools in England.
This is something that has affected our school resulting in only 1 teaching assistant per year rather than 1 per class. These changes open us up to comments such as;
“A teacher has 30 children to look after but special needs child has their own 1:1, how is that fair”
“My child needs help but he/she isn’t getting it but others are”
I completely agree there is not enough funding going into education, schools, especially our’s go above and beyond to make sure the children are not affected by these changes but the parents do not always see the bigger picture or help the situation by making comments although not always directed to us (Teddie)
What many parents do not always understand is for a child to receive a 1:1 procedures need to be met & put into place. Yes, Teddie has his own 1:1 that’s because I have fought tooth and nail for him to receive the funding he needs for him to attend school.
What many parents also do not understand is Teddie’s 1:1 will only be present in the classroom while Teddie is at the school, if Teddie leaves the school the funding leaves as well.
A special needs child does not start school and automatically have own LSA the parents needs to start the procedures months, years in advance, even then it’s down to the local authority to decide if a child warrants a 1:1.
Our school has bent over backwards for us, for that, I cannot thank them enough but I think that due to us having the respect for each other. We could have sent Teddie into school and moaned about what should & shouldn’t be in place for him instead, we
worked together a year before Teddie even started school to get him what he has today.
Before you make judgemental comments on what one child has but your child hasn’t stop and think about the lengthy process we have been through just to get our son through the school doors every single morning.
There are two kinds of people in this world, those who have no impact on your life and those who change it, all the staff at Teddie’s school have most definitely changed his life.
Today we say farewell to the reception class, how is it possibly Teddies done a year at school already. We had no real expectations of what we wanted Teddie to achieve this year all we were worried about was Teddie liking school and Teddie being liked, We had nothing to worry about.
I am honestly lost for words (a rarity ) and finding it hard to write how I feel. Thinking about the effort and love Teddie has received this year brings me to tears just thinking about it.
How do you thank the people who have put their everything into ensuring your child gets everything they deserve & more, who go out of their way to just say hello or to check how Teddie is doing ok?
The teacher, Ta’s, office staff, head, senco, music teacher & Teddies 1:1 is more than just staff at a school they went above and beyond and cared for Teddie with love. They allowed him to be himself, they gave him the room to grow and become the amazing boy he is now.
We are forever grateful for everything you have all done for Teddie this year. As another chapter closes we await a new one to start, with your love and support, together Teddie can become whoever he wants to be.
If there is one thing I struggle to get my head around is how autism can be seen as being “different” It’s so complex how can it not be seen as anything other than truly amazing.
For a 5-year-old to have a photographic memory, recognise complex shapes and love working with high digit numbers is nothing short of astonishing, If this is “different” then sign me the hell up as I would love to have these abilities!
Autism comes in all shapes and sizes which is whats so amazing about it. The spectrum is so vast no two children are the same.
Autism normally presents itself by the age of 3, however, parents may notice signs as early as 12 months. For us, Teddie hit all his milestones when he was a baby, it wasn’t until he was over 1 we noticed a real change in how he saw the world. It honestly felt like one day he was ok then all of a sudden he wasn’t.
Teddie walked early, would high five his brothers, made eye contact with you, was so happy & even said a few words then it was like a switch had been flicked, he was a different boy.
Throughout my studies, I come across lots of theories on why children behave in certain ways (neurotypical and ASD children) Children all develop at different stages during pregnancy and after birth. As a parent of 3 boys, I’m still met with the need for my children to confirm but the fact is children will be who they want to be.
I’ve never felt the need to find out why Teddie has ASD. What we do know, however, is environmental factors & genetics strongly influence the risk for developing ASD. Do any of these apply to us? I’m not sure but I do ponder on a few questions.
One of the main issues Teddie faces now is recognising facial expressions and the emotions behind them. The question I always ask myself is what changed from when Teddie was a baby/toddler to now?
Studying and research have taught me infants regularly show facial expressions of sadness and happiness despite never being taught such emotions so this has to be something that is built into us.
A study I worked on a few years ago on how babies congenitally blind will smile when they are happy and cry when they are sad. These infants have never been taught or seen these facial expressions so it backs up the theory that these emotions are built into all of us.
With this in mind, how is it possible for Teddie to be able to regulate all emotions at such a young age but find it all so hard now? Why does Teddie have empathy towards others but not towards himself?
Did something happen for these changes to make such an impact on him?
Even if my questions were answered it wouldn’t make a difference, in all honesty, I (we) would never want Teddie to be any different from the amazing kind-hearted boy we all love so much.
The mind works in mysterious ways & to complex for any of us to ever fully understand. No two people are the same which can only be a good thing.
Teddie has this ability to appear to not be listening or paying attention but in fact, he is taking it all in without us even knowing.
Teddie lost one of his front teeth last week, I hadn’t even realised it was wobbly. We were playing in the pool when my hand slipped away from Ted’s and managed to flick his tooth with one of my fingers. Out of the corner of my eye, I spotted a small white object fly past me, yep, I had flicked his front tooth out!
After many failed attempts to put the tooth back into his gums, Teddie seemed ok with what had happened.
Teddie has already lost his 2 bottom teeth so we knew how to approach the situation. We knew there would be 1 issue we needed to avoid- The tooth fairy.
Whenever anyone mentioned the tooth fairy Teddie would just scream
“No, No, No” loud!
We had never discussed what happens when the tooth fairy comes as Teddie never allows us to talk about it.
I’m not entirely sure as to why he has an issue with the Tooth fairy but when you break it down who would be excited about a strange person coming into your bedroom at night when your asleep and your parents aren’t there?
A few days later Alfie lost one of his teeth. Alfie showed Teddie his tooth and to our surprise, Teddie spoke as clear as day;
“Tooth under pillow, tooth fairy bring money”
Although Teddie cannot allow himself into certain situations he is more than happy to see others through it. Teddie was so happy at the thought the tooth fairy was coming for Alfie but couldn’t allow it for himself.
Teddie has an ability to mask a lot of his traits when he is in a good place but at times (of late) Teddie displays waves of different emotions (we call bubbling) which normally indicates something isn’t quite right for him. We can go from complete normality to back to square one where he needs to change his clothes every time the thinnest spec of water gets on him.
The last few days Teddie has come home from the school in a different T-shirt, although he is excepting of the change of T-shirt (progress) there’s a reason as to why he needs to constantly change his top. Although we may not find out whats bothering him we need to put things into place just in case the situation escalates.
Organisation is the key for Teddie, it’s hard to remember everything he needs but if we want the happy loving Teddie it’s our responsibility to ensure he has everything he needs to get through the day otherwise I feel I have failed him.
Teddie hasn’t needed his octopus or 3 minions at school for a few weeks now but when things do escalate he will revert back to them in order to bring him back up from his cloud of anxieties so I ensure he has everything in his bag just in case.
Teddie continues to push the boundaries with sensory play, you can see he wants to join in but sometimes the fear of it is too much for him to handle. He is given the time to make whatever decision he feels is in his best interest. As long as there is a towel available to wash his hands he normally gives it a go.
Teddies determination amazes me every day. We love our Bear and honestly wouldn’t want him any other way.