Masking & triggers

Teddie has this ability to appear to not be listening or paying attention but in fact, he is taking it all in without us even knowing.

Teddie lost one of his front teeth last week, I hadn’t even realised it was wobbly.
We were playing in the pool when my hand slipped away from Ted’s and managed to flick his tooth with one of my fingers. Out of the corner of my eye, I spotted a small white object fly past me, yep, I had flicked his front tooth out!

After many failed attempts to put the tooth back into his gums, Teddie seemed ok with what had happened.

Teddie has already lost his 2 bottom teeth so we knew how to approach the situation. We knew there would be 1 issue we needed to avoid- The tooth fairy.

Whenever anyone mentioned the tooth fairy Teddie would just scream

No, No, No” loud!

We had never discussed what happens when the tooth fairy comes as Teddie never allows us to talk about it.

I’m not entirely sure as to why he has an issue with the Tooth fairy but when you break it down who would be excited about a strange person coming into your bedroom at night when your asleep and your parents aren’t there?

A few days later Alfie lost one of his teeth. Alfie showed Teddie his tooth and to our surprise, Teddie spoke as clear as day;

“Tooth under pillow, tooth fairy bring money”

Although Teddie cannot allow himself into certain situations he is more than happy to see others through it. Teddie was so happy at the thought the tooth fairy was coming for Alfie but couldn’t allow it for himself.

Teddie has an ability to mask a lot of his traits when he is in a good place but at times (of late) Teddie displays waves of different emotions (we call bubbling) which normally indicates something isn’t quite right for him. We can go from complete normality to back to square one where he needs to change his clothes every time the thinnest spec of water gets on him.

The last few days Teddie has come home from the school in a different T-shirt, although he is excepting of the change of T-shirt (progress) there’s a reason as to why he needs to constantly change his top. Although we may not find out whats bothering him we need to put things into place just in case the situation escalates.

Organisation is the key for Teddie, it’s hard to remember everything he needs but if we want the happy loving Teddie it’s our responsibility to ensure he has everything he needs to get through the day otherwise I feel I have failed him.

Teddie hasn’t needed his octopus or 3 minions at school for a few weeks now but when things do escalate he will revert back to them in order to bring him back up from his cloud of anxieties so I ensure he has everything in his bag just in case.

Teddie continues to push the boundaries with sensory play, you can see he wants to join in but sometimes the fear of it is too much for him to handle. He is given the time to make whatever decision he feels is in his best interest. As long as there is a towel available to wash his hands he normally gives it a go.

Teddies determination amazes me every day. We love our Bear and honestly wouldn’t want him any other way.

 

 

 

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