The first week back to school has been a rocky road, to say the least. I’ve struggled to get Teddie out the front door in the morning’s- when I do he wants to enter the school through the office rather than the playground/classroom door ( other than today)
As Teddie seemed to settle one day the next something props up which sets him back. Just when we thought he had overcome the worse of Teddies anxieties towards his school uniform (mainly his jumper) he gets his sleeve wet which sends him into a meltdown.
Yesterday was Teddie’s school disco, the children were very excited at the idea of a boogie straight from school; I heard the laughter from the children who were changing into their party gear. For Teddie this wasn’t the case, instead of laughter, all I could hear was crying & fear.
As I entered the school, I found Teddie hunched in the middle of the corridor not knowing what was happening. Teddie first thought the children were changing into their P.E kit but soon realised they weren’t- didn’t help matters.
Teddie was so overwhelmed by the change of routine I sat hugging him in the middle of the corridor till he settled, once he did we headed home.
There’s bound to be certain events when we feel sad Teddie isn’t joining in or experiencing like his peers are.
The school disco, non-uniform, dress up day, and even school trips are all events the children get excited about
but what if you aren’t………?
- What if you don’t care there’s a school disco
- What if the fear of breaking your routine overrides dressing up like everyone else?
- What if you don’t fully understand what is happening?
I’ve been so worried Teddie is missing out of all these events I failed to see if Teddie even wants to do any of it. We know when Teddie is gonna be okay and when he’s not he, so why are putting him through all of this unneeded stress?
Next week is world book day, the children are allowed to come as a character from their favourite book-or the easiest costume a parent can buy or make.
World book day has always been a MASSIVE event in our house, I love nothing more than staying up late making the boys their costumes but this year will be different.
I would like to think Teddie will partake in the dressing up as he loves a dress up but as it’s a school day I’m not so sure he will.
Alfie has chosen to go as Where’s Wally- something he went as a few years previous. This year I have brought off the rack as I’m hoping Teddie will go as Where’s Wally as Alf is so the outfits NEED to the same!!
If Teddie decides on the day he cannot dress up, it’s completely fine he can go to school it whatever he feels comfortable in- Will be his uniform.
All we ever want is for Teddie to feel safe and happy where ever he is if that means him not conforming then so be it.
Considering the addition needs, Teddie has to contend with he always has a beautiful smile on his face, he’s ALWAYS polite & is the “kindest giant in town” (Still obsessed with the book) what more can we ask for.
We love our Bear and wouldn’t have him any other way!