As one chapter ends, a new one starts.


How is it even possible that our baby finishes preschool in a few days and about embark on a new chapter in his life, school.
I say to new parents, enjoy the time you have with your little ones because it honestly feels like you blink and they’re starting school.
I’ve always thought once they start school, they lose that ‘little one’ label, you see such a change in them. I know we constantly underestimated how much Harvey and Alfie could actually do, at home, we did everything for them. I remember seeing a video of Alfie cutting vegetables with a sharp knife, I don’t let him use a knife at home now and he’s nearly 10!

Lots of parents have an option of whether 6 weeks holiday is too long, right now I’m counting down till the boys break up, ask me again in a week and I’ll be that parents, saying it’s farrrrrrrr to long.
I’m looking forward to the lazy morning’s & not having to rush around trying to find socks that match every night then again in the morning as I’ve fallen asleep on the sofa the night before. I absolutely HATE socks, they are the bane of my life. Where do boys keep their socks because they are not in their draw, nor the washing basket or the tumble dryer, seriously where are they??. Alfie Went to school in the same socks twice in a row last week, Harvey does this most day but that’s cos he’s a 14-year-old, apparently, it’s ok!.
As much as I’m looking forward to not wasting my life on socks, school holidays also means I’m running a cafe, breakfast, lunch and dinner needs to meet restaurant standards. Why can’t my boys just eat normal food? Alf wants pancakes, Teddie want a loaf of bread toasted and cut into the shape he desires (and that’s just for breakfast) and then there’s Harvey- this boy can eat! Harvey wants a full English for breakfast, pizza for lunch (a whole one) and then an Italian pasta dish for dinner, thank god we have that money tree in the back garden!

The odd afternoon I’ve been taking Teddie into his Reception class he’ll be in in September, he loves the outside play area & the other class that’s adjoined to his. This afternoon some of the current reception children were still in class as their parents hadn’t been seen. I walked over to find him queueing with the other class children, did make me laugh that he wanted to queue with them.
Last week I had a meeting with the current school senco, area senco and Teddie’s pre-school manager. We talked at length about what Teddie will need come September. We created an effective IEP (An IEP or Individual Education Plan is a plan or programme designed for children with SEN to help them to get the most out of their education) We talked at length about my concerns and the issues he faces every day and not knowing whether they will affect him come September, it was thought best to be ready with the support just in case.
It was thought that the difference Teddie may experience might not truly show until year 1 as year 1 is a lot more structured than reception.

Teddie will be seen by the specialist teacher team, I so pleased to find out it’s someone we know and has a connection to our little family (parent from boys old school) I look forward to her coming alone on Teddie’s journey.
I have no idea how the school will pan out for Teddie, all we can do is try and hope he’ll be ok and If he isn’t then we have other options.
For now, we continue to love our Bear, and wouldn’t have him any other way!.

The count down…..


I cannot believe Teddie has less than 2 weeks left at preschool, I will be forever grateful to all the girls at Teddie’s preschool. It so hard handing your child over to anyone even without having additional needs. The girls have made us feel so at ease with Teddie going, they gave him the time & space he needed to get to where he is today. He love’s going to preschool, he loves all his friends he’s made and he loves all the ladies (ladies man in the making) It will be very sad closing that chapter of Teddie journey.

Teddie has had his last taster session in his reception class, now it’s the countdown until September.  When we got to the school the gate wasn’t open so there was a slight wait- felt like hours, we sat on the benches with a friend and waited for the gate to open. Teddie was eager as ever to get in, he walked straight in with his lunch box in hand, I didn’t even get a kiss goodbye. I spent a few minutes with his teachers, Just to put my mind at rest! I am very lucky to already know a lot of the staff at the school, having them already knowing Teddie’s background is so helpful for him as well for them. When I came to collect Teddie his lovely 1-1 came out and assured me he was absolutely fine, Then his teacher came out at the end of the day when we were picking Alfie up and said the same

I had said before I thought Teddie had grown an issue using the toilet while we were out, I now know this has become a real thing. Teddie had an appointment with the specialist teacher last week. We were early so I treated him to a McDonalds for lunch, I told Teddie once he had finished we would go to the toilet, he flat out refused and looked scared at the idea. When we got to the primary care centre I needed to go- thinking this was a familiar place he would have no problems going but again looked frightened at the thought of going, as I couldn’t wait I asked one of the parents to watch Teddie while I went, Teddie on the other had waited 5 hours to go.

Teddies appointment last week wasn’t what I thought it would be, I was under the impression Teddie was being seen by a new specialist teacher so we could go through everything he needs for school, but unfortunately it wasn’t.

Considering we hadn’t been in the primary care centre for 8 months Teddie remembered every room in there. Teddie got very upset he wasn’t going with the other children when they were all called.

The appointment was to look at the stages Teddie was working at with PECS- we could have done this over the phone.  At home, Teddie uses stage 4-5 PECS but when he’s at preschool/school he’ll work at a lower stage as at times the environment is hard to work it plus it’s new of them all. I have made a few changes to how we use it but everything is pretty much the same.

Alongside the Toilet issues, Teddie has real issues when it comes to hurting himself, If he falls over and there’s blood he’ll get himself in such a state and will not let you near him to help. This morning he banged his face on our coffee table, anyone would think we were murdering him the noise he made. I gave him the time he needed then he came in for a hug- he then noticed the blood from his mouth on my top and it all started again.       As much as you want to help Teddie it’s just better to leave him when he’s hurting, he’ll always come in for a hug but never for your help.

Gareth and I left the boys with my parents this weekend as we had a friends wedding, I went through the motions of dealing with my separation anxiety and tried not to think too much about how Teddie was feeling without us- mainly me, but of course, Teddie and the older two were absolutely fine, not sure about my parents. When we got home Teddie wouldn’t leave my side, I actually really liked that he wanted to be with me and not because he wanted me to do something for him- Maybe we should have a night away more often.

Teddie continues to amaze us, we learn something new about him and ourselves everyday, We love our Bear and wouldn’t have him any other way.

Stages of PECS


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